Life

I will confess to lying a bit in the title today right now. Everything I knew isn’t wrong. But before you dismiss this as another clickbait article, hear me out.

I think. A lot. For most situations I have imagined plenty of possible (and impossible…) scenarios. After gaining a few experiences, I usually find myself feeling as though I’ve figured something out. That I now know something for sure about how I view and feel about that something.

Fast forward a few days, weeks, months or years. Guess what. Everything has changed. What I believed I knew has changed. I find myself wondering how I could have ever thought what I did.

Of course, this is the way life always is. It’s part of the charm. Nowadays, I remind myself of this simple fact. Rarely do I speak with such great conviction about how things are, or are going to be. Because it changes. Your experiences changes you. And when they do, everything you thought you knew about your life is wrong, and you now know what is actually right. Except, there in the near future, it will all happen again.

Recently it has dawned on me exactly why I decided to found my own company and run my business instead of just getting another job. What struck me, is that it really boils down to one critical thing.

I believe in changing the world. It may sound pretentious, but it is true. Where others simply say “that’s just the way it works”, I decide to question why, and if it is something that could be improved, I want to improve it.

Practically speaking, I started my own company because it was at the time the only way that I could do what I wanted. Getting the job just wasn’t a possibility then. As the years have passed, I realize that part of my success is because I question the norm.

Those who follow me on social media know that I like to call out bad practices and question illogical and unreasonable things. My goal is not to be mean to anyone (though I do understand if that’s how you view it), but to spur discussion around improvement.

It should come as no surprise that one of my favorite philosophical “laws” is Hume’s Law, or the “is-ought problem”: Just because something is a certain way, doesn’t mean it ought to be.

I want to make the world a better place in the way that I can contribute. Having, broadly speaking, chosen marketing and business could then be seen as quite the paradox. It doesn’t have to be.

So when you hire either of my companies (or myself), you hire my grand plans of how great something could be. A wish to make everything function excellently.

And that’s why I take the lone road of running a business, being a public person and not backing off. Because someone needs to, and apparently, I’m one of those “someones”.

On Our Life’s Problems

It happens increasingly often these days. I see, and read, an article where someone astutely writes about their problems. Be it depression, never feeling as though they fit in, illnesses, loneliness, relationship struggles… the list can be made long.

As someone who have had his fair share of things to deal with (none of which are the subject of this post), I appreciate seeing these posts. The one thing you always think, regardless of whatever problem you are battling, is that you are odd, non-normal and alone in facing it. You’re wrong.

This is why I appreciate these insightful and in many ways exposing posts. It takes courage to write about personal matters in public. Yet, for every person, every article we see about it, we grow stronger. We realize that we are not alone. We realize that other people too battle the same things we do. We feel a sense of belonging.

It’s a fine act between writing about problems and letting them define you. I’m a strong believer in not creating a perfect public persona because that’s just fake. Yet, psychologically we like public personae to be more positive than what would be called “negative”.

Like so many others, I advocate writing healthily about problems and struggles in our lives. Through doing so we gain support from others around us, we relieve the heaviness we carry with us, and perhaps more importantly, we silently help others who find themselves in the same situation.
Isn’t that worth a few words?

Did you make any new years resolutions this year? Many people have already given up on theirs. Partly because they forget them in the daily buzz, and partly because we give up too easily.

Most new years resolutions are about building a habit. If you don’t allow yourself to fail a few times on the process, you’re probably never going to succeed in changing.

For this reason, I always write yearly goals. It’s a semantic discussion what difference this is to a new years resolution. But that’s not the important point. The important thing is that I write them down.

For both my business and personal goals, I keep a note (stuck at the top in Evernote) with the goals I want to reach this year. I make sure to refer to it continuously to remind myself of the goals. Otherwise I know I’m going to forget.

But here is the fun fact. Even if you never ever refer back to this list of goals, you are still more likely to reach them after having written them down! Fascinating isn’t it?

I have another trick for you in how you write them down. Write your goals as though you have already reached them. For example: “I am working out 2 times a week” instead of “Work out twice a week”. See the subtle difference?

It’s never too late to set some goals. Make them fair to yourself and you’ll be surprised at how many you can reach within a year. Just by writing them down.

On Journaling

Recently I set out to strengthen a few habits in my day/week. All of these are to improve my health in various aspects. Amongst others, they include working out, reading daily in the evenings and journaling.

Journaling, I hear you ask. Yes indeed. What is often associated with teenage girls, is in fact a wonderful thing for your mind. Writing helps reduce the clutter that’s in our heads.

Interestingly enough, writing has some pretty neat effects. When we write something down we both remember it better and let go of it in our heads (simultaneously!), even if we never look at what we wrote again. Isn’t that fascinating?

Those two are the reasons why I have picked up writing a journal. While i know I should be doing it by hand with pen and paper (it’s much more effective), the convenience of the Day One apps have got me so far.

Every evening I sit down and think about the day. Actually I lie. I don’t have to think, my brain does it anyway, pushes me through everything that’s happened: Good and bad.

Journaling is a way for me to get all these spinning thoughts out of my head. It’s a way for me to collect myself and oddly enough, stop thinking about some things. In a way, one of the reasons why the brain won’t stop thinking about it, is because it doesn’t want to forget it. When I write it down, I’m tricking the brain into believing that it can store it deeper instead.

Plus, if you manage to be a little upbeat and positive in some of the writing in a given day, it is going to reflect your mood rather instantly.

Writing is pretty powerful. So let me suggest journaling to you. Whether digital or analog, try it for a while and let me know how you find it.